I Want To Know What Love Is | Adam Smith

1 John 2:28-3:24

God’s children and sin

28 And now, dear children, continue in him, so that when he appears we may be confident and unashamed before him at his coming.

29 If you know that he is righteous, you know that everyone who does what is right has been born of him.

See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are! The reason the world does not know us is that it did not know him. Dear friends, now we are children of God, and what we will be has not yet been made known. But we know that when Christ appears, we shall be like him, for we shall see him as he is. All who have this hope in him purify themselves, just as he is pure.

Everyone who sins breaks the law; in fact, sin is lawlessness. But you know that he appeared so that he might take away our sins. And in him is no sin. No one who lives in him keeps on sinning. No one who continues to sin has either seen him or known him.

Dear children, do not let anyone lead you astray. The one who does what is right is righteous, just as he is righteous. The one who does what is sinful is of the devil, because the devil has been sinning from the beginning. The reason the Son of God appeared was to destroy the devil’s work. No one who is born of God will continue to sin, because God’s seed remains in them; they cannot go on sinning, because they have been born of God. 10 This is how we know who the children of God are and who the children of the devil are: anyone who does not do what is right is not God’s child, nor is anyone who does not love their brother and sister.

More on love and hatred

11 For this is the message you heard from the beginning: we should love one another. 12 Do not be like Cain, who belonged to the evil one and murdered his brother. And why did he murder him? Because his own actions were evil and his brother’s were righteous. 13 Do not be surprised, my brothers and sisters, if the world hates you. 14 We know that we have passed from death to life, because we love each other. Anyone who does not love remains in death. 15 Anyone who hates a brother or sister is a murderer, and you know that no murderer has eternal life residing in him.

16 This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers and sisters. 17 If anyone has material possessions and sees a brother or sister in need but has no pity on them, how can the love of God be in that person? 18 Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.

19 This is how we know that we belong to the truth and how we set our hearts at rest in his presence: 20 if our hearts condemn us, we know that God is greater than our hearts, and he knows everything. 21 Dear friends, if our hearts do not condemn us, we have confidence before God 22 and receive from him anything we ask, because we keep his commands and do what pleases him. 23 And this is his command: to believe in the name of his Son, Jesus Christ, and to love one another as he commanded us. 24 The one who keeps God’s commands lives in him, and he in them. And this is how we know that he lives in us: we know it by the Spirit he gave us.


What does John tell us are the hallmarks of a Christian?

Firstly, he says it means being ‘righteous’. In other words, measuring up to God’s standards and not falling short. John seems to say that you won’t sin once you’re a Christian. Some of you might want to stop reading there because you know you do sin. We all do. But what John is saying is that you won’t continually, habitually keep committing the same sins. You won’t be defined by that sinfulness any more: you’re defined by Jesus once Christ lives in you. We are righteous, but not because of what we do but because of what Jesus has done, dying for us on the cross.

If you find yourself in a pattern of habitual sin, is there someone you trust who will pray with you? Many have been there before you so don’t think you’re on your own.

The second hallmark of a Christian is to love one another. So what is love? Well-known pop songs ask that question, and various answers have been given by scientists and philosophers. John tells us that Jesus showed us what love is, when he laid down his life for us.

Truly loving one another means consistent laying down of our lives for each other. It must be a habitual attitude to loving and giving, rather than random grand gestures. Living day by day in a loving way, rather than covering bad behaviour with a massive bunch of flowers.

Is that how you love?

John also says that love is shown in actions and in truth. When you say ‘Oh bless…’ in response to someone getting things wrong, do you go on to bless that person in some active way? The truth about love is the good news that Jesus came to wipe the slate clean through dying in our place and freeing us up to be truly loving.

Knowing this truth results in our hearts being ‘at rest in his presence’. If you’re not sure how someone feels about you, you don’t feel relaxed with them – you can’t put your guard down. But in God’s presence there is no need for this defensiveness. He knows all about us. He also knows what we think about ourselves and he has a different opinion!

How can we be sure of this? Because he gives us the Holy Spirit who leads us into this truth: that God lives within us. And that makes all the difference.

Is your heart at rest in God’s presence? Or will you ask the Holy Spirit to give you the assurance you need?

Adam Smith